Many couples have ended up divorcing because of misunderstanding in marriages.
It is crucial for every partner to learn the likes and dislikes of other mate during courtship for easier marriage life. In Kalenjin community, the typical Kalenjin men are treated according to what their customs and belief abides by.
For a lovely and enjoyable marriage life with a Kalenjin man, it is important for women not to allow these words to slip from their mouths.
You are a coward
Kalenjin men believe they are courageous because of the intense and harsh training they encounter during circumcision. After circumcision ceremony, the Kalenjin initiates are ushered into manhood and are regarded the defenders of their community against any invasion. This makes them believe they are courageous and it is against the Kalenjin values to say your man is coward.
Chelagat, married for 10 years to a Kalenjin man said he once jokingly told her husband that he is a coward and she regretted the consequences.
"He assumed that I have abused him although I was joking. The lesson I got will never fade from my mind because it was too harsh," she said.
You are poor in bed
Kalenjin men hold the belief that they are the beasts when it comes to bedroom matters. Every Kalenjin man holds a high esteem and if a woman tells him that he is poor between the sheets, he becomes so offended that he may fight back. Even if the man is poor in bed, it is advisable not to mention that directly.
"I will never tell my husband about this because I was taught by my aunt that it has unreversible consequence," said Lilian, a mother of one.
You are not the father's child
Kalenjin men love their children so much that always do anything possible to make them happy. If the woman bears a child out of wedlock without the husband's knowledge, it is advisable to keep the secret as long as forever. Revealing such secrets will not keep the marriage any longer.
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