A friend-zone is the worst nightmare for any guy, especially if he was pursuing the lady in question. Most guys have at one time or another experienced the rigors of the friend-zone, it offers a 'kill me softly' vibe.
As unkind as it may sound only a few girls know how to be upfront by rebuffing a guy's advances. However, most girls are more subtle either choosing to bide their time or let you down easy.
You may get really close to a girl with all the hopes of getting into her pants, but somewhere along the way, you may have taken a few detours that led you right into the friend zone.
Given that most guys have the friend-zone phobia, it would be wise to avoid it sooner rather than later. The friend-zone is a tricky place to fall in and understanding how it happens could help avoid it;
Here are some of the reasons why guys fall into the friend-zone:
1. Faking platonic affections
Almost always most guys will naturally tend to hide their true intentions and feelings toward a girl they like since they want to avoid appearing desperate and rude. If this fails then the guy might just end up in the friend-zone.
2. Too close for comfort
So you tried the friendly approach to get your lady friend warmed up for the big reveal of deep affections. Maybe you just figured that if she got to know the 'real' you then she will definitely fall in love with you by default. By the time you get around to expressing your true feelings, it may be too late.
3. No butterflies
A guy that doesn't out-rightly state his intentions runs a risk of being mistaken for a friend or worst still- a brother. When it gets here the sexual chemistry would definitely be non-existent and the thought of hooking up might even gross out the girl.
4. Lack of attraction
It goes without saying that women are unique individuals in their own capacity and therefore have tastes and preferences when it comes to the opposite sex. Unfortunately, not all guys will satisfy her criteria- either physically or personality-wise. Too bad if you're just not the guy for her.
5. Fear of rejection
This one is pretty easy- if you never ask for something then the answer will most certainly always be no. At times, a guy may genuinely believe that the girl he likes is way too good for him. And instead of hitting on her, he secretly lusts for her but gives up on pursuing the girl.
6. Hoping she realizes what she's got eventually
So you're betting on the odds that she will systematically work out through every failing relationship and ultimately realize that you're the only constant thing in her relationship. The perfect guy has always been right in front of her the whole time! All the best with that.