The dating period is the most important time frame in anyone’s life cycle if at all you are supposed to end up with someone. It is at this point that you get to know your opposite other as well as uncover their most hidden self. As such, you should be extra keen on not, not just one, but many attributes that you think a potential life partner should possess.
After dating for that long, you may see it a good thing to just commit to that special girl and get things in motion. You may have seen that she matches all that you have on your script of what you need her to be. However, that is not really enough. The final bit is to ask her rather ‘important’ questions that will then validate everything. You will get to understand who she is and what she may possibly turn out to be. Everything has to be lain bare. Touches of the clandestine are to be given no room when it comes to committing.
Here are some of the questions you should ask before committing.
1. What does a committed relationship look like?
By asking her what her perception of a committed relationship is, you stand to know a lot more things. If she is sincere enough and does not hold anything back, you actually get a sniff of the personality you are about to commit to. She will reveal her demands and what she may want you to be. Make sure she is at ease to get the response you want and in the correct format.
2. What’s your view on relationship and sex?
Some girls may not really want to openly talk about sex. That does not mean they ultimately do not want anything to do with it. It is just that it is such a sensitive area and you are not supposed to put her in a situation where she will start questioning what you really want from her. Sex and relationship are two different things. Some may, however, believe that the existence of any strong relationship is pegged on sex and feelings of passion. That is not correct. A relationship can flourish and do very well without having to go to bed with your partner every time you feel like. Her response on this will also open up on the kind of person she really is. If she thinks the relationship is all about sex, here is a good chance to know.
3. Ask her of her outlook on money
Matters money are even more sensitive than sex and everything else that may accrue to your existence, together. If she is honest enough here, you actually get to know what you are just about to commit to. She may be a total problem when it comes to money- the type who want it all- or just a gentle soul that will let you be responsible and not demand too much with regards to the situation at hand. She may try to hide or distort the real answer but, at least, you will get wind of what she actually wants.
4. Ask her about her last relationship
This is just as important a piece to not as it is alarmingly a wrong route to take. If her last relationship ended in tatters and she is trying her best to get over it, this is not really the best way or time or moment to bring the matter back to life. If she is capable enough to not hide a single detail of what transpired, you will get to understand her and take necessary precautions or not put her in situations where she is infuriated to that extent. Whether it was her fault or the other’s fault, how her last relationship ended is really an important piece of information you need to have.
5. Ask her if she is in any debt
Because you are about to be sort of one, it is really important to know how she has handled her finances in the past. Did she clear that debt or is it still pending? Has she even ever thought of taking a loan and under what circumstances? Or, this is someone who is just perfectly independent and does not really need that sort of route to get out of financial situations.
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