Occasionally, it is possible to learn something from your partner about how to handle relationship conflicts. You can do this by learning from the mistake your loved one is making by putting yourself in their shoes.

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This is not just limited to putting oneself in the other’s shoes, rather, there are more ways this can be done:

1. Avoid immediately judging your partner and holding her/him responsible

Most couples make the mistake of quickly saying the other person is the one who made a mistake without having a conversation about it. Rushing to conclusions is wrong. Even if they did something wrong, there is a reason and you should listen to it.

2. Listen and understand your partner’s opinions

Sometimes you may feel like not listening to him/her when you are sure that they cannot articulate something important? This should not be the case as your partner is as important as you are. His/her opinions count as much as yours. Both of you crave to feel taken “importantly” and have their attention when you speak.

3. Remember what Love means for both of you

Yes, love is important for both of you. Always remember what first brought you together since it was a beautiful reason filled with beautiful memories. You should never lose track of what your love and relationship mean for you. You should always throw away negative assumptions from your minds that you make up thinking about other’s false motives.