When you get to know what goes on behind most relationships, you realize that break-ups and divorces do not just happen. Yet when they happen, we tend to blame it on the other person or the unresolved problems, but rarely on whether the issues were handled or resolved in a healthy manner. In fact, many spouses lack proper conflict-management skills while others feel criticized or put down by their partners.
1. Failing to embrace the negative. There is no relationship without issues. Believe it or not, even when your marriage has reached a breaking point, you can embrace that as a strength. Instead of brooding over the issues and fostering a negative environment, recognize the problem at hand and take the appropriate steps to resolve it maturely.
2. Reckless use of language. Usually, we get attracted to people like us in terms of personality, values, and physical appearance. However, these are not the only features that make a relationship work. Compatibility seems easier among people who speak the same way. It is critical that you choose your words carefully in order to ensure the success of the relationship.
3. Ignoring facts. When we find the courage to look inside without allowing the filters of self-protection and self-preservation to blind us, it opens up a vista to personal growth that we never thought possible.
4. Making assumptions. Acknowledging that your partner has feelings, ideas, and perspectives on life is important for any relationship. Assumptions can destroy relationships. An assumption is part of the thought process where one believes to be right, even when such a thought might not be supported by reality.
5. Failing to deal with contentious issues. Lack of wisdom in handling issues that provoke us to anger can lead to frustration and conflict in a relationship.