Valentines Day is here with us again and Kenya being a country whose larger part of the population is constituted by youth, it means that there are a lot of people competing for a first date!
In a way, dating is much like a game. We all want to win the ultimate prize. For the ladies, that's usually Prince Charming. Unfortunately, the dating game doesn't always end the way we'd like it to. Sometimes it's because there's simply no spark, values don't mesh, or there's no attraction. So what are the things that spoil first dates?
1. Don't mention your ex
This is a big turnoff for many of people. Oftentimes, it's a sign that you are not completely over your ex and your current date is merely a rebound. Talking about an ex-love forces your date to wonder if you are ready for someone new. If you catch yourself beginning sentences with 'I used to date someone who blah, blah, blah' you are setting yourself up for failure.
2. Don't get drunk
Drinking should really be kept to a minimum—no more than two alcoholic beverages preferably. Excessive drinking can lead to nightmarish situations where you make decisions you normally would not. A first date can easily turn into a one-night stand under these circumstances. The goal is to engage with the person by listening and speaking, and that's really hard to do if the room is spinning.
3. Avoid wearing revealing clothes
You have only one chance to make a good impression. Barely-there clothing can make you appear 'easy' or 'loose' even if you are not. Don't come dressed for the gym either. Dress well but don't overdo it. Dressing casual is the best: shirt and pants for men and a nice dress or a cute top and pants or skirt for women.
4. Don't sleep with him
If you really want a committed relationship and for your date to take you seriously, avoid having sex with him straight away. Having sex on the first date will cloud your judgment, and if he doesn't call again, you are going to spend a lot of energy analyzing, stalking, and even asking him out yourself for a second and third date. Just because he had sex with you doesn't mean he is interested.
5. Do not pretend to be someone you're not
If you 'act' on your first date, what will happen when you try to get real later? Be as real and natural as possible, so that you won't have to try to remember what act you put on.