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Have you ever wondered why even the best relationships end up not working?
Well, here are the top five reasons.
1. Assuming to have too many alternatives
Sometimes a good person will fail to settle well in a relationship because they are sure they can find someone else if the current relationship doesn't work out. Instead of striving to make it work, they will be in the passive mode and will not try to solve problems.
2. A Know-it-All attitude
This occurs when one or both the people in the relationship think they know it more than the other, and that they don't need any advice. There is no ideal relationship, and so regardless of what you know, the person you are dealing with is special and different from the 'ideal'. So have an ear and listen.
3. The third voice
Many relationships die because of giving room to "a third voice".
Although everyone must have friends, ensure that the people who matter in the relationship between the two of you is you and your partner. Friends and family sometimes have vested interests, and making active their voice in your relationship could be sucidal.
4. Early or too much sex
Although sex on the first day is not really the problem, most of those who take this route end up with a disturbed relationship in the ultimate.
What early sex does is that it shifts your focus. Instead of working to understand your compatibility, you start focussing more and more on the physical ecstacy between you and your partner.
5. Being rigid
Do not cheat yourself with the "love me as I am" lie.
Try to fit into the expectations of your partner. Marriage is a transition from your box into a your partner's, and your partner from theirs into yours. Once you decide to remain in your world, you stop a lot in communication and eventually, things fall apart.
(The core of this article is informed by ideas picked from a publication with The Standard)