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While couples are busy making plans for the much awaited February 14th Valentine’s day, single people are dying inside and it is normal. The social media and sharing of romantic escapades just makes the matter worse for the singles. It is like someone gorging himself or herself on hot Nyama Choma and you are just here eating with your eyes. This frustration may push a single person to the wall and prompt him or her make decisions that he or she will live to regret.
1.Masturbation.
On the night of 14th February, while many couples would have traveled to various romantic destinations, the single will be drooling alone in bed and thoughts of masturbating might cross his or her mind. We all know the psychological effects of masturbation. The best way to avoid this is to occupy the mind with some good movie or to read some captivating pieces of literature. The world will not end on the 14th of February.
2.Rushing to find love
A single person, in a bid to fit in on the 14th of February, will rush to find love. They will accept any invitation from any Tom, Dick and Harry and this might put them in a jeopardizing situation. In a rush to find a soul mate just to avoid being lonely, they might end up with a wrong person and the end result is either an abusive relationship, a conman who will just steal his or her virginity or even unwanted pregnancy. Experience has shown us that short-cuts are never the best paths to follow and it is also true when looking for a lover.
3.Getting back with the ex.
They say, better the devil you know than the angel you do not know. Many single people will use this saying as an excuse to get back with that ex who ill-treated them or him or her who dropped them for another person. I am not a relationship expert but I have seen many of my friends suffer because of this silly move. Let bygones be bygones. Do not make the mistake of going back to your ex just to prove to the world that Valentines will not pass you by. Apart from the ex losing the respect that he or she had for you, you will feel used and cheated when you wake up in the morning of 15th February and realize that he or she is still not feeling you.
4. Avoiding celebrations
Another mistake a single person will make is to avoid areas where couples are celebrating their love. They will opt to remain indoors as others throng clubs and amusement parks. They will opt to remain indoors as others throng cinema halls and theatres.They will opt to lock themselves inside the house while others are enjoying the sun at the beach. Who said that being single is a crime? Who said that single people cannot enjoy watching a play of partying the night away in a night club? Do not be deceived. Go out there and have fun as well. Maybe your real love is waiting for you there.