One of the better phase of a marriage is being so comfortable with your husband that you can say anything to him.However, if you don't get careful there are things you can tell your husband and hurt him. Below are some of them:
1. When are you going to find a new job
First, figure out why you want him to find a new job so badly. Do you dislike how much time he spends away from home? Do you think he can or should be further ahead career-wise? Is he not bringing home a healthy-enough salary?Before you say anything that could be hurtful to him, think about what your own issues are.Such words may discourage him or make him feel demoralized.
2. You are just like your father
These words are nasty and belittling and it gets at his fear that he may be exhibiting the worst traits of his family. If you're about to spout a criticism like this, stop and think about what's behind it or relating it with father-in-law.
3. My mother warned me you would do this
This is not a good idea of criticizing your husband's behaviors because it's telling him that you're not on his side, or on the side of your relationship. Though you should never let the opinions of others' dictate your relationship.
4. Just leave it I will do it
This is hurtful in two ways. First, it gets at your husband's elemental need to be a provider, supporter, and capable person in the house. Second, it's just plain demeaning for any adult to hear that his efforts are sub-par. Do this too often, your husband might think he can never do anything to please you.