Setting healthy boundaries and learning how to compromise as partners allows space for you to get along well while still leaving room for each other to grow. It would feel like a loss or a subtraction when you create wrong and unhealthy compromises. You might feel shortchanged or taken for granted, especially if you are always the one giving up things or making way in your relationship. So here’s how you can better create healthy compromises:
1. Establish mutual respect. You have to respect each other’s individuality, needs, aspirations, values, and desires. There should also be healthy boundaries that either of you should not overstep.
2 Set your priorities. You should have your own personal priorities, and while you should stick by them, you should also be flexible enough to consider your partner’s priorities as well. Have priorities as a couple and make this flexible too.
3 Negotiate. Before you ask your partner to give up something, be prepared to bring something to the table as well. This creates a sense of fairness and balance as you are asking for compromise but are prepared to give it also.
4. Create a win-win situation. Compromise doesn’t have to exclusively be giving up things for each other. A positive compromise allows you both to gain things or receive benefits in return.
5. Don’t mix anger with compromising. If you are angry, nothing productive will be achieved. You should approach each other when you are both calm and level-headed. Give each other time to cool off and think things through.