Maintaining a calm tone is better for a smooth conversation. [Photo/hearinglikeme.com] Communication is the waters that keep a relationship flowing. It's a simple art of human interaction that isn't fully appreciated. There is no way for your spouse to understand you if you don't communicate.
Try to fall in love with your spouse's hobbies and interests. You can't love everything they love but you can try to be interested at your most comfortable degree. Sharing a range of activities together help you bond. This increases the matters you talk about. It creates a conversation bond which can translate into better communication. What's important to remember is, talk, don't yell. The tone of your voice can strongly affect how your message is received. Maintaining a calm tone is soothing and can help not ruin your spouse's mood. Be careful with your choice of words. Using words like 'you never' or 'you always' when pointing out a mistake can make one seem like a failure. Instead of accepting their mistake, they might start getting defensive. Improve your listening skills because you have to do better than hear what someone says. Try to take their ideas, opinions, feelings and observations into consideration. For there to be healthy communication, listening has to be taken seriously.