Many men live with their girlfriends but they have never gone to visit her family. They just met, liked each other or fell in love and decided to move in together in what is commonly referred to as “come we stay” relationship. The girl has never visited the home of the man and likewise, the man has never visited the family of the girl.
But there comes a time when, as a responsible man, you will be compelled to visit her family for an official introduction. Many men are scared of this moment and they would rather postpone it to a later date. Here are a few nuggets to help you make a good impression while visiting her family for the very first time.
Dress smartly
What you wear usually portrays how you carry out yourself. It is probably the first visible thing the family members will see you. Do not portray the image of an immature man by wearing like a teenager. They will not take you seriously. The trick is to wear casual and/or official you are comfortable in. Smart dressing goes hand in hand with smart grooming. Do not show up with a bushy beard and long dirty nails. If you are the afro-type, make sure that day your afro is well-combed.
Listen more, talk less
They say a fool does more talking than listening. Do not embarrass yourself by having verbal diarrhea. Do not take over the program of the day. You are a visitor, not a master of ceremony. Listen attentively to what the family members say and respond wisely. However, you should not be too rigid and enclosed. Open up a little bit and even crack a joke or two. Do not make them think you are dumb by keeping mum all the time. In short, try to balance your conversation by paying attention while at the same contributing a point or two.
Eat less
There will be a variety of food items placed on the table for you. Please, do not over-eat. You do not want to be visiting the toilet every hour. In fact, the best thing to do when faced with so much option is to go for a simple combination like Ugali/meat stew and a little salad. Do not serve everything. Choosing a weird combination like French fries and Ugali served with chicken, beef and beans will surely raise some eyebrows. Do not think no one is watching you. Serve just enough food and eat politely. As for drinks, even if you drink alcohol like a fish, try to go for soft drinks or just plain water. If it is a must you have to drink alcohol, please just taste.
Carry a gift
Yes, it is just an introductory meeting. You will arrange for a proper visit next time but please do not go empty-handed. Carry a simple gift for her parents and siblings. Even if it is just a Kitenge material for her mother, some shoes for her father, a wristwatch for her brother and a phone for her sister. It does have to be something expensive. You can also give out some cash.
Avoid white lies
While introducing yourself, avoid white lies. Just try to be yourself. Of course, you can add a little salt but do not get carried away with lies. For example, do not say you are a bank manager while you are just a teller. Do not portray the image of a very rich man while you are just a hustler trying to make ends meet. In short, avoid white lies. Speak some truth.