A relationship is a process that undergoes many phases, there will be good times and challenges. Great relationships don't come obviously, a lot needs to be done by each party which involves both good and worse choices. Also, hard work is also needed to create a firm foundation for a relationship which most people fails to understand. There are the specific skills and actions that strengthen our relationships.
Be true to your words.Trust will be weak in a struggling relationship. When you say you will do something or share what’s true for you, your partner is going to trust that is true. It’s ok for you to change your mind, but take the time to catch your partner up to speed. This allows your partner to grow and change with you.
Be aware of keeping secrets to protect your partner. We are often tempted to protect our partners by keeping secrets from them. This positive intention often falls apart as time passes and unexpected consequences come to light. It can be very difficult to know when to share “secrets.” As much as you can, try to be as open as possible.
Express yourself, feelings and thoughts freely. You have the right to say what you think and feel. A relationship built on false information intended to please your partner will eventually fall apart. Strong relationships are built on trust and respect, which can only happen when both partners are honest with each other.
Learn how to forgive your partner. Forgiveness does not mean you give permission for someone to mistreat you. It means that you accept that we are all doing the best we can. Surely if we knew better, we would do better. When we disappoint and hurt each other, it’s not because we want to. Forgive that your partner hasn’t learned better ways of loving you yet. Forgiveness means you commit to letting go of the hurt of the past to allow for new possibilities in the future.
Always be positive. Believe that your partner's intention is good. Avoid doubting his/her ideas without reasons. When you are not okay with his/her ideas explain him or her the reason and don't provoke.
Do not play blame games.This is a game no one wins. Even if you are successful in blaming all your problems on your partner, you still are stuck with all those problems and the feelings that come with them. The only way to begin transforming your problems into solutions is to take full responsibility for the parts you play. Stop blaming and start creating the relationship you want.