Alcoholism is threatening the future of Kenya. Marriages are wrecked leading to numerous social problems. Single mothers are becoming part of our culture while absentee fathers are a common thing in this country. This ought to stop and women have a great role to play. Despite the fact that the individual should put in the effort to overcome their alcohol addiction, a loved one is a key pillar in this process. As a wife who is almost losing the father to your children to alcohol, try the following:
1. Have a conversation
Talking is the first step towards resolving any problem on earth. Make him understand that you do not like his drinking. This statement has to be accompanied by reasons why you believe his addiction is bad. If he understands your concerns, there is a great possibility you will help him quit drinking. Moreover, ensure you make them comfortable enough to open up about the main reason they choose to drink excessively. Whether is depression or anxiety, do not judge them but try to ask in a loving manner why they love alcohol. This response will help you progress.
2. Give examples without ultimatums and shaming
Arm yourself with examples of people who have been ruined by alcohol. Tell him why you are worried that he might end up like the examples you have. You should make sure that you do not shame them or give ultimatums. Shaming will lower his self-esteem. Direct him to a rehabilitation programme or a professional but let them choose what they prefer.
3. Give success examples and always be supportive
There people who have quit alcoholism. Look for examples and assure him that he can also live without depending on alcohol. As you do all this, however long it takes for him to quit, always be supportive. He remains the father of your children whether he is an alcoholic or not.