You meet at campus and he seems like the sweetest human to ever exist. He sweeps you off your feet (literally). When telling the story of when you first met, you describe it as love at first sight. Your relationship is  a whirlwind of romance and he showers you with gifts. But then there's a problem. You go through his social media and there's no sign of your existence. Actually, he's single. He shouts out every other girl but you. To top it all, he blocked you, so you stalk him using your friend's account. He's a flirt and has a million girls piled up in his comment section.You decide to up your game and go through his computer and phone. Whatever you find baffles you. He has photos of ladies no, women half naked (none of them are yours.) You sit down and ponder. You ask yourself the age old question "what did i do to deserve this. You keep wondering where you went wrong.Truth is, most if not all women have to experience a moment of naivete in their love life before they finally settle for the 'one'. We pine over people who do not care and keep returning time and again even after reading the writing on the wall. Just to save the rest of you the agony, here are some things that should wake you up from that deep slumber:You never go out, you always remain indoors: it is quite clear that a man who always insists on seeing you at his premises and not take you out on dates or even to bask in the sun for a minute is not serious with you. You are not a house cat and you are definitely not his girlfriend. Therefore, run as fast as you can. Stay away from him. A man who is proud to have you will find time to spend with you away from the comfort of his home. He doesn't have to show you off but at least the four walls of his room will not be the only things you are familiar with. He should be willing to explore things that do not include hiding you within his house. A man who loves you should not have to hide you.You have been seeing each other for a while but have never met his family or friends: once you are in a relationship the first thing that comes to mind is to tell your friends how happy you are and 'ulivyoangukia'. Some men however will make sure that none of his friends ever set their eyes on you. You have no idea who his friends are or what their names are. You however hear him say time and again that he will go out during the weekend (but not with you). Whenever you ask him why he argues that you are not dating his friends or he asks you to find your own friends. Again, run and i repeat, run!!! Meeting you partner's friends and family at some point is an integral part of the relationship since it shows you how serious he is and that he trusts you enough to introduce you to the people he holds dearly."I am a changed man" excuse: now allow me to ruffle some feathers and admit that this should be considered as the number one sign of a man who's disinterested. A man who wrongs you time after time then crawls back into your life with the above words does not give two hoots about you. If he is always disrespecting you and abusing you he knows how to get you to take him back. He will either admit that he was a jerk or resort to saying that he changed and has turned a new leaf. Do not believe him. It does not take effort to say those words for he already knows that you'll fall for them. You have been engaged for long but he doesn't plan to marry you: A man who wants to waste your time will use you as a safety net. He will get down on his knees and propose to you then call you his fiancee for a straight five years. Truly, you are not his fiancee. You are his SAFETY NET. He keeps you around just in case all the other girls do not want to be involved with him. You then become what he settled for. Correct me if I'm wrong but a wedding is supposed to follow suit shortly after a proposal takes place. Isn't that the point of it all? So why do some people take ages before they finally settle for a wedding date. If he was willing to propose, in the back of his mind he knew that a wedding was the goal

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