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We live in times when a relationship turns into a 'situationship' at the drop of a hat. You may think you are the main woman in a man's life only to be accosted at a supermarket by his 'other' main woman. Before it's too late, here's how to know where you lie.
You’re never invited to stay the night after sex.
If he leaves your apartment in the middle of the night, or makes sure you never stay over at his place, this is a definite red flag. He does not want you to be seen by anyone.
He buys you stuff to keep you happy.
If he makes up for mistakes by buying you ‘hush’ gifts, then he is preying on your material weaknesses. If you were the main chic, he would sit down with you and work it out over an actual conversation.
He seems completely disconnected when you get emotional with him.
When you speak about serious issues like commitment and moving in together and he shuts the whole conversation down, he’s not interested in doing those things with you.
He refuses to show affection in public.
Even something as easy as holding your hand is a no-go-zone for him with you. He does not want to have to explain who you are in case you are seen together,
He dodges every photo opportunity.
So if you notice that your guy is dodging selfies like bullets whenever you tilt your phone to take a picture, you may be a side chick.
You have a “secret spot” that he tries to play off as romantic.
Every couple has a favourite spot to eat or hang out. However, if he chooses to always take you outside the city or to venues with very little traffic, it’s a possibility he’s trying to be discreet about being out with you, without letting you know.
He always wants to meet late at night.
If you only meet after dark or after reasonable date hours, such as 11pm or later, chances are he has another life that he leads. Those are your official “booty call” hours.
He prefers to stay in when you’re together.
If your guy always strays away from going out or always wants to just come to your place to hang out, this is a major side chick indicator. There’s a difference between a guy being a homebody and trying to be sneaky with your relationship. Every couple has dinner at restaurants or goes on movie dates from time to time.
You’re never invited to family gatherings.
If you have never been to any events that include his friends or family, this is another side chick indicator.
He has to go suddenly whenever you’re on the phone.
When you speak to your guy on the phone, if he speaks to you in a very formal tone without even addressing you by name, more often than not, that’s a definite sign you are a side chick. If he always has to hang up suddenly that’s probably because his actual girlfriend got home.