Hi Uncle
I feel my husband values his mother more than me. Every time I ask for some little money to settle some of my personal needs, he keeps telling me he has sent money back to the village. And the other day my mother was in a problem and I asked him to send her something too. He said he was broke. After two days I saw him send again to his mother. I feel that his mother has taken away my marriage and that the man does not value me anymore. What should I do?
Tracy.
Hi Tracy
What should you do?
Help your husband help his mother. Marriage is a binding contract that brings you and your husband together as one. As such, his mother is your mother and if she has issues in the village then it is upon you and your husband to work together to solve it since his mother is still your mother. It is bad to judge, but the fact that you don't consider his mother to be part of you could be an indicator that you have not accepted him wholly. Because sons are naturally attached to their mothers as you are likely to be with yours.
And if he told you he was broke, he was. Learn to trust your man.