A couple conversing. [Photo/the-star.co.ke]
Men think that their women became committed to them when they were dating when really, they said goodbye to their other lovers only when they walked down the aisle. There is the case of the ex, where they keep former flames in the picture. Such women are two timers because they are afraid of commitment.
When couples slant a relationship imagining it to fail, their worries will sooner materialize in that case women keep their ex as a form of insurance. Ask around and you will find that women don’t really distance themselves from their exes, especially the ones they dumped.
Consciously or subconsciously, they do this because they feel that one day they might need to go back to them. Better the devil you know, and anyway, the grass is always greener on the other side, even if you have just jumped over the fence.Moreover “Even ‘clandes’ are a form of insurance for men. If the wife refuses to give attention, the ‘clande’ swoops in to save the day.
In the same line of thought, it is not a bad thing to have a backup plan just in case.However, their Precautionary measures are a normal thing for human beings. For women, measures like insisting on having a conversation about where the relationship is heading are key.
They could also involve the parents or friends. This makes the man accountable and if the families are aware, then no party can easily jump out thus giving a woman peace of mind.