A sad man. [Photo/the-star.co.ke]
Contrary to what many women assume to be, men do have emotions too. They just don’t always express them, either because it’s extra tough for them to or because their thinking in place of their feelings is at the leading edge of what they're engaged in.
For this reason, men emotions are determined through design that determines their basic and particular needs.
Take as an instance; a lady who tells the husband that the house rent is due and she would possibly suppose that he is insensitive while he replies that she shouldn’t fear and be worried as he goes to attend to it. She will be assuming that there isn’t any cash in their bank account and that she fears their home might be closed due to rent arrears. In the real sense, at the end of the day, the house rent will be paid on time.
The woman might interpret his response to mean that he doesn’t care. Yet, all this time, he’s been thinking about what he is going to do.
She’s feeling while he is thinking! He is formulating all manner of schemes in his head about how he is going to get the money. There are times when a woman isn’t feeling what a man is thinking and there are also times when a man isn’t thinking what a woman is feeling.
When this happens, lack of communication between them compounds their frustration with each other. Men should, therefore, communicate to women what they are thinking and feeling. The woman also shouldn’t interpret the man’s logical way as insensitive or irresponsible.
The woman should also do her best to make her feelings known to a man by an actual expression of the source of those feelings, rather than just a jumble of emotional mambos. When a woman’s feelings aren’t sensible, a man simply locks them out and waits for her to calm down.
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