A couple. [Photo: Love_blackloveadvice.com]
Growing up with my fellow boys, I believed that in matters of love men make the first move.
In our Kenyan society, for example, men are expected to take the lead in establishing romantic relationships. I would hear my age mates brag how they had "inboxed" a girl here and there. This further cemented my belief that indeed men are the pioneers of any love affair. Is it to mean girls have no choice but to accept the men that approach them? The answer to this question is definitely a big NO. Especially in this 21st century. Women have become aware of their equality with the masculine gender. In Kenya, for instance, the constitution empower women to a great deal. Back to my girlfriend.
A few months ago my relationship comes to an ugly ending after realising my ex was actually taking me for a ride.After slipping back to singlehood, I received a magic call. The call was from a girl. She attends the same church as me from a neighbouring village. She frankly told me that she had admired me for long. She went ahead to declare her love for me. Of course as a man, I pretended to have had a similar attraction. However, she questioned why I had not bothered to talk to her despite her long waiting. Unknown to me was that she used to see me playing the church instruments at get-togethers. I had to accept her and she was extremely happy that she even told her mother the whole story. It’s almost a year since then and I am doubting whether I am the only man she may have approached. I doubt why she was so courageous to do it. This girl is so beautiful and I have grown to love her. What is disturbing me is just an afterthought of how our relationship started.