While the sentiment of keeping “something” of your failed relationship alive may seem heartwarming and for the overall greater good, the truth is, making your new friendship a success may be more pain than it’s worth. While a large number of people have tried it at some point or another, you may as well come to terms with the fact that staying friends with your ex just shouldn’t be on the buffet table. Need a couple of reasons to stay away from trying to be all buddy-buddy with an ex? Here are some;
1. They’re your ex for a reason. As healthy or cathartic as you think staying friends with your ex is, remember that you are no longer together for a reason. Breaking up, in some ways, can be similar to a death.
2. They’ve seen you naked. Let’s be honest. Your ex has seen you naked. Aside from say, your parents, carrying on a friendship with someone who has seen you in the buff is usually considered a big no-no.
3. You may become friends with benefits. If reason number two hits home with you, then you may end up being one of the many exes who stay friends only to become the dreaded friends with benefits.
4. You stay in love. You may try to fight the urge to abhor your ex post-breakup, especially if it’s one of your first serious relationships. You may even try to take the high-road and get over yourself for the sake of this new found “friendship.”
5. You have to watch your ex move on. Whether or not you’re still in love with your old flame, though let’s face it, this one sucks way more if you are, there will come a point where you have to watch them move on.
6. Your new partner will hate them. No one, especially not your new beau, wants to know that you’re still hanging out with your ex. Whether or not you’re the one who broke it off, your new lover won’t be too happy knowing you’re still having play-dates with someone who used to make you come.