Patience is something that very few couples practice within the Kenyan dating scene.
Lots of Kenyans are very much preoccupied with their day to day activities that the idea of taking time to listen, understand and sympathize with their lovers almost seems like a serious waste of limited time.
However, it's advisable for every couple to take time and the necessary efforts required to foster a healthy communication channel.
This will act as an opening to mutual love, trust, and understanding. It takes a stronger, more mature, more evolved person to take a step back and try to make a connection with someone before they rush into making judgments based on the raw facts.
Every person in a relationship obviously has their own feelings, however, these feelings should never be overtaken by selfish feelings at any one point just because they feel wronged by their partners.
Here are some of the reasons why every partner within any couple should be patient with their better halves:
1. Trust issues
Overcoming your partner's trust issues in your relationship is probably going to be difficult.
If they have real trust issues, then they've been hurt in the past.
Their lack of trust is held in place by fear of being betrayed, humiliated, taken advantage of or otherwise manipulated all over again.
This perceived risk may be overwhelming to them and extremely annoying to for you.
Be patient with them as you help them overcome this.
2. Not good enough
This is the feeling that your partner is undergoing a period when there's an extreme dislike or hatred of themselves, or being angry at or even prejudiced against themselves.
This might be caused by a myriad of things such as undesirable body after childbirth, suicidal thoughts or even depression.
Let this not anger you, try and be patient with them to understand their feelings and thoughts.
3. Negativity
In every persons life their comes a period when life's taste just becomes numb and we become reactive and negative about every little thing around us.
This could be caused by a prior disappointment or plain bitterness about our status in life.
A little bit of understanding and positivity from our partners can always go a long way in improving our moods drastically.
4. Self-pity
The moods within the house can change real first if one of the partners is acting needy and clingy.
If the affected partner does not find help or support from their better half then this feeling could only worsen and break the relationship ultimately.
Seeking understanding and isolating the root of these feelings could salvage both the relationship and the drowning partner.
5. Being a failure
Feelings of failure and disappointment from any of the partners could affect the overall attitude and mood within the relationship.
Partners should always find effective and efficient ways of assisting the affected party to overcome these feelings of inadequacy.
Be patient and remind them of their various other successes.
6. Being taken for granted
When one of the partners feels like they are being taken for granted within the relationship- they seem to be the ones that care the most and put in most of the effort- then this could possibly lead to an awkward and unhealthy situation if it's not diagnosed properly.
Both partners have to be open to communication and be willing to understand and sympathize with these feelings of being unappreciated.
7. Emotional baggage
All of us have a past- past boyfriends, girlfriends and romantic acquaintances.
All these things are best left in the past while headed into a new relationship.
However, sometimes this is not the case since there might be a 'spillover effect', that could be disguised in the form of unresolved feelings.
It's advisable that the current partner be patient enough as their better half works out these issues.