QUESTION

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Hey Uncle Liguru!

I am facing some economic tough times at the moment. I am doing a low-paying job in Nairobi, and my girlfriend, who recently moved in with me, is having to pay rent and take care of the house bills.

I have no problem with her doing this, considering that she has a good job, but many friends have warned she'll soon 'sit on me' and be the 'man of the house'.

Should I allow her to continue paying rent and clearing other bills?

Thank you.

Sam

ANSWER

Hi Sam

Thanks for the bold step of opening up.

Relationships and marriages are a complicated thing. But the challenge you are facing is as inexistent as the reason for your fear. When you say you have no problem with your current situation, and that you are afraid because of what friends are saying, don't you feel that the fear will soon be so great and you will crumble under its weight?

In any case, which school of life did your friends attend and you missed, so that they can sit somewhere and advise you over the life you've spent all your life living?

Live your life. Establish your relationship with your girlfriend. By now you should be knowing the character of your woman in both good or bad times, and if she can start turning into a ‘man’, it’s only you who can know - if you want. Because you have not seen any sign by yourself, relax. Worry less, eat fruits, and cook for madam when you get home first.

And go look for a better job bwana. Which man is still fed and housed by his woman?