A couple.[Photo/thetrentonline.com]Relationship counselors encourage confiding in a spouse. They say it nurtures intimacy, which thrives on trust, loyalty, and honesty, consequently strengthening the relationship. However, a line has to be drawn when laying all the cards on the table, lest you can’t take back what you reveal. 

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Never, ever, under any circumstance gloat about your sexual prowess. Don’t. Some secrets are better kept under key and lock. Spelling out your past sexual explorations will not end well.

Past infidelities

We’ve been told a million and one times that a leopard cannot change its spots. This knowledge is ingrained in us. If at one point in a past relationship you dilly-dallied in a ‘side’, don’t talk about it.  It’s in the past, and as such, it should stay. A seed of doubt once planted can be stubborn to get rid of.

Dislike for in-laws

Tread carefully and save your opinion about your partner’s family. Whether a partner gets along with his family or not, clutch onto the safe zone. When your partner constantly fusses about how nasty his mother is, please do not take it as a cue to rant.

The ex-list

Why are you even compelled to go through the trouble? It does not add value to your relationship, but it may diminish it. Therefore, do not go on about the fun times you had with Tom, Martha, Dick, and Jane. The rule could be exceptional if your spouse knows your ex, but still, details should be sealed.

Passwords

Everybody has something to hide, hitched or not. Installing passwords on your phones and laptop does not mean you do not trust each other. There are things that you cannot risk your other half stumbling upon. A sensitive message or email sent to you by a friend should be the only privy to you. If he wants to use your laptop, let him open a different account because it’s an available option.

Abortion

Girls, honesty is an impeccable attribute, but at what expense should it come? People are socialized differently and abortion is still largely frowned upon. There are things that should remain untouched, and admitting to having undergone a pregnancy termination is the big one.