Having doubts in a relationship is not unusual - how can you ever be completely certain you’re with the right person? If you believe in monogamy and being with one person for life, it can be hard to be 100 percent certain you’ve found “the one.”But if it’s hard to know someone is right for you, there are ways to work out if someone is wrong.
1. You have different core values. Core values are your non-negotiables. It could be a desire to have children, get married or move to Paris, but if it’s something you definitely want to do and won’t change your mind about, you’re heading for trouble if your partner doesn’t feel the same.
2. They take you for granted. If your partner calls all the shots in your relationship, it’s not well-balanced. The point when the average couple starts taking each other for granted is three years and six months into their marriage.
3. They don’t respect you. Relationships call for mutual respect between equals. But lack of respect can manifest itself in various ways, including verbal or emotional abuse, and being passive-aggressive.
4. They don’t care about your emotional or sexual needs. If your partner expects you to drop everything and compromise to suit him or her, they’re not giving any thought to your own needs.
5. They take, rather than give, care. This is one you often don’t realize for a while but once it hits you, you won’t be able to forget it. You may be constantly thinking about your partner, what they’re up to and how they’re feeling, but do they ever express any interest in your welfare?