Single parenthood is skyrocketing in Kenya according to statistics. For the moment, forget about single fathers; most remarry almost immediately, while the others seem content in their singlehood; nobody says anything, positive or negative, about them. However, single mothers, have to contend with misconceptions and judgmental comments, especially from men, and society in general.
Raising a child as a single parent is very stressful. As a single parent, you have to handle several tasks and make more than a few decisions. On the other hand, learning about single parenting and how you can make life easy and fun for you and your little one is vital.
Positive Effects Of Single Parenting:
1. Strong Parent-Child Bonding
Spending one-on-one time with your little one creates a unique bond which will be stronger than the one if you weren't a single parent. It goes in the case of custodial parents (one who has sole physical custody of the child) and also non-custodial parents who play a significant role in their child’s lives.
2. Strong Sense Of Community
We're all familiar with the phrase "It takes a village to raise a child." Kids raised in single-parent families are often surrounded by a village of supporters, literally. In many cases, members of the extended family will step up and play a significant role in the children's lives. And single parents who don't live near family may choose to participate in community groups—including single parent support groups, churches, civic groups and chamas.
3. Share Responsibilities
Children raised by single parents will not just have token responsibilities to do, but their contribution to the complete family system is necessary. In this way, children will understand the value of their contribution and can take pleasure in their work.
4. Maturity & Learn How to Handle Adversity
Children will find their parents working hard, and it will force them to collaborate and work along with their parents. Additionally, the children will also learn to manage their disappointments in life.
5. Parental Role Modelling
Children brought up in single-parent families will realize their importance in their parents’ lives. It is a healthy approach which will help them to prepare for the real world. Children will feel secure about their ability to negotiate the challenges of future life.
6. Lack Of Parental Conflicts
There will be no parental conflict, and it eases tension and stress for both the parent and the child. It will be true in the case of the former partner being abusive or the relationship was controversial. If there are no arguments or conflicts, the child will feel more secure in her living environment.