Truth be told men and women have been trying to figure each other out since time immemorial. We always appear to be at two very opposite ends of the gender spectrum.
Most of the urges and needs of one gender might, simply put, appear whimsical and totally nonsensical to the opposite gender.
Here are some frequent misunderstandings that most men have when it comes to women, despite how hard they try to make you understand.
1. Dynamics of communication
Both genders have different, unique but interesting approaches to communication. Men tend to hit the nail directly on the head, without mincing any words. On the other hand, women tend to internalize and factor in every aspect of the conversation; the tone, the speech patterns, emotions involved and eventual possible outcomes. They make it as long as possible in order to gain understanding. This requires patience in listening and might appear confusing to men.
2. Though united by gender, each woman is unique
Not all women are the same, this is one aspect that tends to bring confusion amongst men since they totally disregard it. There's no manual somewhere that captures the taste and desires of women as a whole. They are unique and different in their own way, zero in on one and get to know her. Afterward, don't extrapolate that knowledge as asserting the behavior of the rest.
3. Women too can be strong
Now, this is the most misunderstood fact about women amongst men. History has set a bad precedent in terms of how women should be valued and the extent of their roles in our society. Women always tend to play second fiddle to man and this has successfully cultivated the notion that women are the weaker sex who need protection and care from men i.e a woman cannot survive without a man.
4. Women are emotional
Women have picked up quite the reputation when it comes to being overly emotional. Though, this doesn't in anyway rule out the aspect of strength. She will throw tantrums, shed tears and have several breakdowns, but eventually, she gets up and moves on stronger than before. Though a few women tend to use this card to gain sympathy most of them don't mean to cry, it just happens.
5. The act of multitasking
Every man will agree that this is one aspect that we can never keep up with. The ability to capture and show a myriad of emotions at once always leave us boggled and confused. Women can change what they're doing halfway through to finish up something else they started and this practice overlaps into their conversations, they may seem disjointed or mixed up because they change directions mid-thought.
6. The frugal act of doublespeak
Now men definitely do not understand the full extent of what a woman says. Our language is plain and direct, so is our listening. We will definitely take words and phrases on their face value, and this has appeared to be a landmine for many relationships. Some phrases that you should always try to investigate further when your woman utters them include; “You don’t have to get me anything”, “We need to talk!”, “Do whatever you want”, “Do you think she’s pretty?”, “Do I look fat in this?”, “I’m not mad”, “Do you need to do that now?”, “Which of my friends is most attractive?”. If it was a question, hope you avoided and evaded it. If it was an innocent statement hope you knew that it was an order and subtle way of imposing her will.