Its so hard for a woman to speak out if she is not happy with how her man acts in bed.
Instead of me having a 'mpango wa kando' and live sleeping with more than one man, I have walked out of three consecutive marriages.
In the three marriages this are the things that really pissed me off;
1. Silence while playing sex
My first husband Joram, was always silent while making love to me. Efforts to make him roar as he acted bore no fruits and i stopped enjoying sex with him.
If Joram could be roaring in bed and making noises as I did it could be a prove that he was psychologically with me in the sexual dream world.
His grave silence made me feel misused and I slowly started feeling embarassed.
Am I not sweet? Am I not making him feel nice?
Are the questions that I lived asking myself.
Hello Sir, ocassionaly even moan and groan as you make love to your wife, she will never let go.
If you can't then kindly fake it for the sake of keeping her.
2. Hardness while on the act.
For Japheth a Kisii man he was always hard on me.
Japheth is this man who can bite his lips while making love to you.
I remember stopping him from the act severally because of his lip- biting habit.
Does he think am a car stack in the mud and he is trying to push me out?
Or am some machine that really wants him to apply a lot of energy for it to work?
Are some of the questions that never left my mind.
Unlike Joram who could ocassionaly ask me how I felt, Japheth was just like a robot.
Pap! Pap! Pap! And he is done, five minutes later dude is sound asleep.
Hey!! If you thought being hard on your patner is classy, hell its not.
If you are doing it, don't be surprised seeing her take the exit door.
3. Biting me on my nipples.
"Robert, stop biting my nipples for God's sake it pains a lot," were words I mastered saying when I got married to Robert.
This was the longest and last marriage I ever tried.
Longest because at age 30, I needed kids and also badly wanted to settle.
So I thought I would train him to be the bedmate I have lived dreaming of but unfortunately I took the exit route.
How can a man just start biting your nipples as if he instantly became hungry and thinks he is feasting on a mango?
Unlike Joram and Japheth, Robert knew how to moan, he was not like a robot but now he was a monster in bed.
Robert must have met a person who lied to him that by biting my nipples he was making it sexually. Hell no!!