Couple enjoying night out at cocktail bar. Photo/couples.com
Deciding to go home with a guy is a risk. Not only could he turn out to be someone who has a big collection of porcelain dolls that he’s never taken out of the packaging, but it’s also pretty dangerous. The next time you’re on your date/yelling small talk to each other on the dance floor, look out for these signs that usually indicate he’s not someone you should go all the way with:
He makes sexist comments
We don’t like to admit it, but most of us have probably been in scenarios where we’ve let some ambiguously misogynistic comments slide because the person making them was cute. Remember sexism is not as blatant as a man yelling for you to make him a sandwich. If the guy says anything that hints at the fact that he hasn’t read enough feminist literature in his life.
He doesn’t respect boundaries
If he insists on you having more to drink, is way too handy with you on the dance floor or any other form of disrespecting your boundaries, it’s a no. Even if it seems harmless, you don’t want to go home with someone who doesn’t take no for an answer.
He’s self-obsessed
It can be interesting and exciting to listen to a charming guy talk about his amazing life for ages, but you’ll be regretting it later when he decides that sex is done when he is done.
You don’t have a condom
I don’t care how religiously you take the Pill every morning, please never have unprotected sex with someone you don’t know. Never assume the dude will have a condom – rather always carry some with you. Before you get in the Uber, ask him if he has.
You feel like if you don’t go home with him now, he’ll lose interest
You know that feeling you get in your gut where you feel like not sleeping with him will mean you probably never see him again? Trust it. Check in with yourself to see if you actually want to bone or are just doing it to keep him interested.
He’s pretty wrecked (and you’re pretty wrecked too)
Not only does being drunk affect your decision-making abilities, but it also makes you less responsible and thus more likely to do something you’ll regret. If either of you is beyond tipsy, take a rain check.
He’s really awkward
Being awkward face-to-face probably means he’s going to be awkward in bed –and you deserve better. If he’s really nice, give him another few dates – maybe then he’ll feel more comfortable around you (or you’ll be happy to put in the time to train him)