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Before anything else we need self-love. Otherwise, we won’t feel we have anything to offer others, and we will doubt the love offered to us. It can be felt for people we have just met or people we have known our whole lives.
Not to say they are similar in nature, but you can love everyone you meet, even just a little. We cannot survive with too little, we will starve for the affection. But in an ocean of love we lose ourselves, we tire and drown.
It can knock you down, and make you feel the worst you’ll ever feel. But at other times it can just as easily pick you up when you stumble and make you feel whole again. It can be healing and cleansing.
When we love someone we give them a part of ourselves, we share the brightest parts of our soul with them. Whether for a few hours or for decades, we become renewed.
Fear of losing love is perpetrated by the misconception that we are in some way alone in our experiences. Someone somewhere will always love you, and that is strong enough.
Enough to forgive others, forgive yourself, and slowly start all over again. The Jamaican musician by the name Allaine has a composed a song “there is always someone for everyone to love” thus we should be contented with what we have and what we don’t have and not to be envy of anything and everything.
Self-love is like a box of chocolates, cheap, thoughtless, unthinking gift that no one ever asks for, nonreturnable because all you get back is another box of chocolates. In the end, you are left with nothing but broken bits filled with hardened jelly and teeth-shattering nuts, which, if you are desperate enough to eat, leaves nothing but an empty box of useless brown paper.