If you don't forgive the bitterness will eat you up inside. [Photo|jadeafrican.com]
As unreal and unacceptable as it may sound, there are parents who hate their children. Reasons differ widely. Some parents are embittered after a divorce and they take it out on their children, others have unplanned pregnancies and thus hate their children for changing their lives, some get a child of a sex they didn't want, some find their child incapable of accomplishing much in life, while others are simply evil.
How are you supposed to survive when your own parent(s) hates you?
The disappointment you feel when your parent(s) treats you wrong often turns into anger. It is often a response to feeling overwhelmed by a burden that you can hardly control. How your parent's ill feelings work is all in their court. You can't control how they act towards you. It's therefore paramount to find healthy ways of processing your emotions. They run from anger, bitterness, low self-worth, repulsion to disappointment. It's not okay to let these emotions build up within you. They will break you from the inside and make you miserable. Given, that your parent(s) will be unapologetic about your hurt, don't let yourself go through that. Healthy hobbies and interests are a great way of escapism. If you can find solace in sports, academics, the arts and any other passion, it will help you have positive moments and not obsess about the sad times. There are many father and mother figures in society in church, school or your extended family. These kinds of confidants can advise you and offer a shoulder to lean on. You need to appreciate that you can't 'win' a war that you wage against your parents. Parents have a great defining factor in our lives. Being mad at them, no matter the heights and depths of their fault will drag you down. Learn to forgive them as often as your heart needs it in a month, day or hours.