This is one area that can never be exhausted. In fact, the question many of those seeking a marriage partner ask never changes: ”What should I look for in a potential spouse?” There are many things to look for. Here are a few.
1. Religion and faith. Religion and issues to do with faith can bring a couple together or draw them apart because of the manner in which the values, beliefs and practices are expressed. Many people don’t know what to do when they realize after marriage that their spouse does not have the same level of spiritual maturity or interest as theirs.
2. Cares about your affairs. We were created for relationships. No one wants to be alone for the rest of their life. A partner who truly cares about you enhances your self-esteem. Affirmation and appreciation not only show that that they care about you, but also make you both feel involved in the relationship. Your values require compliments from your partner.
3. Areas of common understanding. A thriving relationship is made of two people who minimize their differences and increase their areas of common understanding. We were not made to think alike or copy each other. However, we can embrace our differences as unique areas that contribute what the relationship would never have had if that difference had not been embraced.
4. Clear boundaries: Having clear boundaries on expectations regarding behavior and associations adds trust and faithfulness to the relationship. Embracing clear values helps build honest behaviour that adds value to the relationship and deepens intimacy.
5. Style of communication: A spouse who does not respect your point of view during courtship will most likely not respect it when you are married. It is very important to understand this. A couple must learn to honestly express their feelings as they also develop great listening habits.