A man praying. [Photo/cathyreisenwitz.com]
Controlling behavior is one of the more common negative behavior’s in the world today. Moreover, a look at human history shows that the unbecoming habit is neither new nor different to the behavior in the past.
The ego-mind is a subconscious sense that harbors self-pride. In the case of controlling people, this part makes them result to guarding their pride and associated control to protecting their self-worth, consequently trying to dominate everything around them. What influences the ego-mind or the mind in itself is to be safe, which is consequently classed as safe and in turn perceived as familiar.
This then causes it to micromanage our lives so that everything is familiar to us and this, of course, creates a control. People who control could have drawn the behavior from their childhood or picked it up along the way from their own experience of being controlled.
Respect your social circle
Listen attentively to them without always trying to find solutions or problems to everything. Recognise that they are different from you in the way they think and process things and accept that your way may not be the right way for them.
Foster intimacy in relationships instead of control
In your love relationship, lower your expectations of your mate and of yourself. Focus on what steps you can take to improve your love bond.
Expands your creative horizons
Honour your creative endeavors, focus on just enjoying the process. Don’t plan or think too much about the outcome. Don’t fret about making mistakes.
Practice standing on your own feet
The more you depend on someone else to validate your existence, the more you’ll have the urge to control. Take pride in your own achievements and you’ll feel better about yourself and earn the respect from your social circle instead of using a control to get it from those that you relate with.