He question I pose to many ladies is why they choose to stay in abusive relationships? Is it really worth it?
The only reason for this could be that you do not love your life. But just why do some women prefer dying in their marriages instead of leading a single happy life? Does being single hurt? These are just some of the questions that cross the minds of many Kenyans when they see a young beautiful lady being beaten close to death by her spouse but never go anywhere.
Are women so fast to forget the violations they go through? For some women, they stay in abusive marriages because they have no other source of livelihood apart from what the husband brings on the table. They, therefore, feel the children might go hungry if they ask for a divorce since they cannot meet the children's needs. For others, ask them and they will tell you they only stay for the love they have for their violent "sweetheart".
It's truly amazing what goes in relationships nowadays. One would only think of a lady who comes out of the hospital after one month of nursing injuries from her husband and goes back to sleep on the same bed with him as if she was bewitched if at all they are not out of their mind.
Our society as well is against divorce without putting into a consideration the divorce terms. When getting married, your mother may tell you that "ndoa ni kuvumilia" and quitting should never be an option. With such a parent, you cannot part ways with your husband and expect your parents to receive you back like you have won a trophy. Instead, they will insist you go back to your husband and build your family together but how do you build a family yet you amidst endless wrangles? This is the dilemma most women in abusive marriages find themselves in. Yes, they love their lives, but what about the lives of their children? How will the society view them? If only the society could be a bit more lenient we would certainly have lesser cases of abusive relationships.