The thrill of the first date is usually endless chats and messages on all social platforms without getting bored or tired. This is usually a point where love is taking off and each other is curious to know each others likes and dislikes as others seek to quench their sexual urge. It is at this point that either the boyfriend or girlfriend would want to influence any decision, be it good or bad. And we all know whose interest and desire they will base their counsel?
It is worth noting that men and women communicate differently. Women tend to be talkative and enjoy talking to solve their problems while on the other hand men talk purposively and become withdrawn when faced with a problem in their relationships.
However, after some few seconds, minutes, hours, days, weeks, months or years someone just goes silent and one wonders what happened?! It goes without saying that when a man usually starts pursuing a woman, there is that constant flow of communication until that day everything goes silent. Why the silent even after being in a relationship?
1. Fear of making a situation worse. At times a man will feel helpless especially when he has hurt a woman and she is going on and on into a heated argument with him. You will notice that when you get into an argument with a man, he will try and counter you but only to some point. He will then shut down and stop fighting you further. When this happens, it is because he has realized nothing that he says seems to salvage the situation and he is afraid that anything he says further will only worsen the situation hence he will opt to be silent.
2. He is dealing with something that he can't even articulate. Many women would want their men to share with them details of any challenge or situation he may be facing. But when faced with difficult situations most men prefer to handle it on their own, especially if the issue is not connected to her in any way. Whereas a woman will process information by talking about it, a man, on the other hand, may process things in silence within his psychological angle.
3. He is afraid of being vulnerable. Sometimes a woman will want her man to open up and share his true feelings, only to use them against him at a later date. This fear of being exposed makes a man leave things that are uncomfortable unsaid. After all who needs to be reminded of his past shortcomings?
Parting shot to women, when talking to a wounded man, it is important that you check your body language because the last thing a man wants his woman to think of him is weak and inadequate. For your information silence for many men gives them a safe space.