Mothers in law are usually a nightmare to many women who feel they just cannot stand them.
While some are good some are real monsters but that doesn't mean you can't deal with it.
When getting into marriage, some women already have it in mind that the mother in law is not a good person even when they have hardly interacted to be able to judge her. With this attitude, even if the mother in law is as humane as Mother Teresa, the daughter in law will never see it since she made it stick in her mind that mothers in law are selfish and full of hatred but what some people do not understand is that your mother in law is not your biological mother and thus expecting to be treated how your own mother treats you is close to impossible. She can love but never, in the same way, has she loved her blood children.
Even if the mother in law is not so friendly, you can be friends even if not close. However, this can only happen if you give her enough space and respect her territory. If possible, do not live under the same roof with her or build your house adjacent to hers. Live far away so that you only come to pay her a visit.
Do good shopping for her and help her with the duties. Also, ensure not to overstay. With this, she will feel that you love her and you are not trying to invade her privacy by being there all the time. She will also not be bored seeing you every morning or hearing you fight with your husband. Indeed, she will respect you and miss you if you take a couple of months without visiting her.
Distance will reduce the chances of you fighting or disagreeing and thus giving you an admirable mother-daughter relationship. Even if you feel like she does not like you, don't hit back just treat her well and be nice.
If you come across a kikoi buy her one as you are also buying for your mother. If she gets to know that you got her a present the same as your mum, she will feel honoured and with time she'll also start treating you well and even calling to ask when you are going to visit her.
Most importantly, change your attitude towards your in-laws and take time to learn them before you judge them for the sake of healthy family relationships.